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One week to go.. maybe sooner

Heather wants to have the baby… like now. I’m “suggesting” that she wait until her family comes because of the support we’ll have. Like we have a choice. Okay, read that sentence as “because of the support I’ll have” because Heather will be fine but I have NOOOOOO idea what I’m doing or how to do it. As the youngest of three boys, I haven’t had too much exposure to babies. If you add all the time I’ve ever held a newborn, it would probably add up to 5 minutes. And any time someone puts (forces) a baby in my arms, all muscles tense up. Heather gets on me because I refer to “babies” as “kids”… as in “uh, babe, I don’t feel comfortable about holding the kid”. So I have no idea how I’m going to be with my new daughter. I’m sure I’ll be fine but that doesn’t mean I’ll know what to do when it’s just me, Heather, and Alana… alone. That’s why I’m glad that I’ll be eased into it by Heather’s family staying with us for a week.

I think the reality hit me when I went out to my car the other day to put something in it and saw this object invading my space. It was the extra carseat base that we installed that day. The crib didn’t do it, the baby showers didn’t do it, Heather’s nesting didn’t do it… it was the object in my space that made reality hit home for me.

Life is about to change forever.

So, I’m in this weird place. I love Alana but I don’t take change very well. There is an air of excitement around here. For me, it’s excitement mixed with a large dash of nervousness. So, as you’re praying for Heather and Alana, don’t forget to pray for the first time papa, would ya?


Thanks to my buddy Matt for taking this pic of me pushing Heather’s “button”. heheh

  • Jamie Weiss - November 11, 2007 - 10:56 am

    Hey Rich… there are prayers coming your way for ALL of you! I truly hope that everything goes smoothly. And don’t worry… while they don’t come with instructions, you’ll figure it all out real quick! (Men never use the instruction books anyways… right?) : )

  • Stephanie - November 11, 2007 - 11:26 am

    AND I let you you hold Lake???? Well, You didn’t drop him. Your muscles tensed up and he looked at you like you were an alien but you both survived. Reece and Evan think you are the coolest, so you will be fine.
    When we had our first, the nurse came in yelling at freaked out Tim holding Reece for the first time (in a Chinese accent) “NO, NO, NO! All WONG, ALL WONG!” Needless to say, he about wet his pants, Tim that is.
    All new dads go through it. You aren’t the first.
    You are going to be amazing, Richard.

  • amber - November 11, 2007 - 1:55 pm


    You’ve got support. Loads of it. We ALL love you, and know you are going to be wonderful. Heather knows it, too. You’ll know it yourself, about 4.5 minutes after Alana is out and in your arms.

    Parenthood is challenging, life changing, and ever present once it begins… but you’re going to love every minute of it.



  • Lace - November 11, 2007 - 1:57 pm

    Hey Rich, amzing people make amazing Dad’s so you’ll do great! 🙂

  • Debby - November 11, 2007 - 2:53 pm

    My husband Jon was exactly like you before our little Sarah was born – but from moment 1 in the OR after my c-section he was such a natural! When you SEE Alana and HEAR her little cry you’ll melt and never want to let her go!

  • Cami - November 11, 2007 - 9:19 pm

    rich…i loved this blog, because it reminded me so much of me–never held a baby/babysat (and i’m a girl!) but, praise God, it all pans out and you’ll love it. remember that you’ll love it even more 6 months from here…when life is again “normal,” and you can’t fathom all the little things you guys used to do to fill the time, before there was her. no doubt you’ll be awesome…but just bear in mind, alana will never remember the times you do screw up (at least not the times in her babyhood) 🙂 praying for you guys & can’t wait to see a picture of you holding your daughter!

  • kathy - November 11, 2007 - 9:50 pm

    Rich you will fal in love like never before when you SEE your daughter!! It is amazing, then you will just fall into the swing of all that goes with parenthood! You and Heather love each other and that is the most important thing for Alana!!! Praying for you, Heather & approaching arrival of your daughter!!! Love the Matt pic! You are fortunate to have Nathan & Matt taking pics of this time in your lives!!! wow!!!

  • Remi and Sara - November 13, 2007 - 2:41 am

    Everything everybody said is soooo true!! Remi was nervous too, he was afraid he would “break” her. And, he never wanted or had much experience holding other babies, at least not newborns. But, when Liel made her grand exit, it was like second nature. I tell him all the time that it’s like when the baby is born there is something born inside of the parents, spiritually speaking. Like a God-ordained change that happens the moment the baby is on the OUTSIDE…and it just comes natural. So, don’t be nervous (easy for me to say that, eh???), okay, try to be less nervous, and just trust the Lord for each step after she’s born!! You will do great!!! (just like my amazing husband, who even changed dirty diapers right off the bat!!)
    We love you guys and we can’t wait for your big day!
    Sara Remi and Liel

  • Chrystal - November 14, 2007 - 1:10 pm

    Hey Heather – I’m glad to read you’re doing well. Only a few days left – assuming you haven’t delivered since this blog. I will be praying for you and for a safe delivery. I def want to see photos and of course you must bring Alana by to see Tony and I as soon as you feel she’s ready.

  • Mel - November 17, 2007 - 12:20 pm

    i ditto debby’s comment…Josh was the same…and i had a c-section…he got to go with her to her first bath and such…he got to hold her before me (and had hardly ever held infants). He was like the brightest smileyest person ever! it’s amazing what they make you do…and when you get a teared up eye, you probably just heard her cry for the first time or she just attempted to wrap her tiny fingers around your pinky. it’s not easy adjusting…but it’s very worth the memories and amazing miracle that you get to hold in your arms. 🙂 like i told josh, “the only thing i want from you is to be a dad for Sarah that she’ll look at and say one day…’i want to marry someone JUST LIKE my daddy’!” 🙂 you’ll do great! 🙂

  • Rory and Lindsey Rodgers - November 18, 2007 - 6:10 pm

    Hey guys! I know it’s been a while, but I wanted you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers, especially Heather, sorry Rich:) I know how scary and exciting and life changing this time is. Soon you won’t even remember what it was like without her:) I’ll be praying for lots of sleep in this last week:) Can’t wait to see pictures, Love you guys,
    Lindsey (Rory sends his best too)!

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